What about Dark Secrets?

If your DNA results do not make sense, ask yourself these questions before you try to uncover the answers:

• Do you need to know the answer?
• Are you prepared to deal with a dark secret that may upset the family?
• What will you do with the information once you know the answer?

If you uncover a dark secret such as previously unknown illegitimate children, how will each family member react? How will telling your family members the details of a dark family secret affect your relationship with them? Do you need to reveal the secret? Can you tell some family members but not everyone?

Be sensitive to your family members. Everyone will react differently. Some people do not have to know. Some people need to know. Be careful with who you tell and how you say it.

Once the Cat Is Out of the Bag, the Cat will not want to get back into the Bag